Missed Opportunities.

Yesterday was not a good day for me. It was Monday, I did not get enough sleep, and I was not feeling well. All of that combined with the fact that I just really did not want to go to work, instantly put me in a mood yesterday. So, I went throughout my day not really wanting to entertain anyone, in my own little zone, doing my own thing. I didn’t really have an attitude, I just was not particularly receptive to anyone or any non-work related conversations. So again, I go through my day, get off, go home, preparing to lay down for bed when this thought came barreling into the forefront of my thinking,

“How many opportunities did you miss out on today because of your “mood”?”

That one thought halted EVERYTHING. I went back and traced my day out mentally and although I could not find a particular moment where an opportunity presented itself, I do see moments where I could have definitely worked on my writing. All throughout the day I had ideas of topics, how to word things, and content that would pop into my head, and instead of taking the time to develop those thoughts, I told myself, “I’m not in the mood.” How incredibly foolish and immature of me. Here I am saying just how much I desire to walk in purpose but allowing how I feel to dictate to me what  I do. I had at least 8 hours yesterday to develop myself and I forfeited that time to a “mood.”

How many times have you did the same? Failed to take another step forward that day because, well, you just didn’t feel like it? What opportunity was missed because of it? What blessing was sitting there waiting for you at the very next step? We like to say that “What God has for me is for me,” but if we are not prepared for it, it won’t be. We’re praying for it but we are not prepared to receive it. We are praying for doors of opportunities to be opened but are not ready to walk through them if it is not at the right moment depending upon how we are feeling that day. Had an opportunity presented itself to me yesterday, I would have missed it. There’s no doubt in my mind. But, now that I am aware of that, I am taking steps rewire my thinking in order to ensure that I am able to recognize when a “mood” is about to cause me to forfeit destiny.

Don’t let opportunity pass you by today. Don’t allow a mood to dictate what you are going to do. Be proactive and make the decision to take a step forward despite how you feel.

Peace & Blessings.

Unplug: Rest For A Weary Soul.

This is just something that has been pressing on my heart lately and a post I made on Facebook sparked me to just write a quick blog post on it. The post read:

“For the sake of my sanity,  I mentally block a lot of current events out. When something happens and it’s all on my TL, I graze over the caption and 9/10 I scroll by it. I do this not to NOT deal with whatever it is, but because if I take all of it in at once, I’d lose my mind. So, I take a little in at a time so that I can regulate my emotions and properly process things mentally. I challenge you to do whatever you have to do to take care of your mental health. If you need to delete apps, turn off the TV, turn off the radio, block people, or whatever, do it. The world does not need anyone else who does not have control over their own mind.”

This, for the past three months, has been my philosophy. I live by it, swear by it. I thank God that as this year progresses, I am learning everyday how to control my mind and learning how to do whatever is needed to preserve my mental health. It is so much going on today and as a black woman and as a Christian I feel like I am having to dodge so many darts being thrown my way and if I am honest, some days I am just TIRED. Tired of trying to balance being black, being a woman, and being a Christian. Trying to figure out how to respond to different current events has become such a chore. If I went with my first thought I would be angry every. single. day. Every day. Not a day would go by that I would not be angry because every day SOMETHING is happening. And I mean, I guess that would be fine if it did not go against the Word that is in my heart. So, now there is this battle for my soul taking place between Anger and God. To know that I can be sitting here, seemingly calm on the outside, but on the inside I am SCREAMING, is a scary thought because I wonder just how many other people are out here on the verge of losing it?

I wish I was able to just not care. I have actually tried. I failed. It is just not in me. I am learning that the way God has made me, I tend to feel things deeper than most people, I see things differently than most people. No one even knows this about me but I cry so much. Not even for myself. I can handle the things that life throws at me, that’s cake. I cry because every day I wake up I see someone else that is hurting, someone else whose heart is hardened towards that person, someone else who feels the hurt of that person but is allowing anger to consume them, and then others who just do not care, and I do not know what I can do to fix it. So, then it becomes this burden that I am carrying around with no one to really talk to about it. A lot of times, I cannot talk to another black person about it because many of us are turning away from and are positioning ourselves against the God I serve, and I cannot take that counsel. Just like I am unapologetically black, I am unapologetically a believer in Christ and anything against that, I am against. I feel as if I cannot talk to many other Christians because unless it has to do with homosexuality, we have quietly resolved to just ignoring it. The world knows where we stand on that but when it comes to the gross injustices that are plaguing our nation, all we can come up with is, “Trust in the Lord, He knows all” and have resorted to victim blaming and it’s a cop out. So here I am stuck in the middle and I am tired. So very tired.

But it’s in that tiredness that I hear ever so sweetly…


*deeply sighs*

Oh the sweet relief that comes from simply unplugging. No phone, no social media, no people. Just candles burning, tea infusing, and listening to music and videos that speak to my weary soul. The time that I spend unplugged is time spent decompressing and sitting at the feet of God while my heart cries, “Abba, Abba.” It is Him that I look to for answers because I cannot find them in people. It is in Him that I find my strength, and it is in Him that I find rest. Now more than ever I am finding out how important it is to pull away because if I continue to try to process the happenings of this world on my own, I will eventually succumb to the ever present emotion of anger. My soul will become weak and mentally I will become fragile. He is teaching me how to set up guards and mentally block out things in order to filter them through Him. As I do these things I challenge you to do an evaluation on how you have been feeling lately. How are you mentally? If you are feeling drained, tired, or emotional, join me in just unplugging for a moment. Whether it be a day, a week, or however long you feel that you need, be intentional about taking care of your mental health. Do whatever you like to do that you feel centers you and calms you. Take time for you.

Peace & Blessings…

P.S. I’ve been reading and meditating on the entire book of Habakkuk and James 1 (1 is so good that I cannot seem to make it to chapter 2). There is a lot of wisdom in both and I can honestly say that they both helped me to look at things differently.


Be Encouraged.

Have you encouraged someone today? If you have, how did it make you feel? If you haven’t, I encourage you to do so. You never really know how close someone is to giving up. That small moment that you take to speak life into someone else could be what keeps them from forfeiting their dream.

I’m a very observant person and I do a lot of people watching. I tend to spend a lot of time alone going to the movies, restaurants, the park, and many other places and if I am not engrossed in a book or lost in thought, I take a moment to put my phone down, and just watch. I take in how people move, how they respond to the elements around them, how they talk, if they smile, if they seem approachable, their disposition, and if I can tell just who that person is just by observing. As I’m sitting, I’ll find someone to focus on and I always ask myself, ” I wonder what God created them to do?” “What is their story?” “Are they operating in their purpose?” and if not, “Why not?” I will sit there and try to answer all these questions and build this life for this person where in the end they are living such a fulfilled and happy life. I know that if the subject of my observation ever locked eyes with me they would probably think I was weird because I realize that as I get to the end of their fictitious life, I am smiling. I’m smiling because they did it! They have accomplished what was in their hearts to accomplish and they are leaving this life completely emptied out because they have deposited their gifts into the world to benefit all that will come after them.

I am so intrigued with destiny and purpose because for so long I did not know why I was here. I struggled for years after high school because I was never taught how to take the time out to discover what I was passionate about and how to flow in that. For a few years, it was all about trying to survive and grasping at things to fill me that ultimately  turned out to leave me even more empty than before. So that eventually led to depression. But it was strange because I could see the light at the end of the tunnel, but I just could not figure out how to get there. It’s like seeing hope, faith, peace, joy, and fulfillment, but feeling as if you will never be able to obtain it. It frustrates you and, if you are not careful, can make you angry. Nothing good can be produced out of anger.

So now, because I have gone through that, it is easy to see when someone is in that place in life. I have been on the sidelines rooting people on from a distance because I know how it feels to feel like you are not going to make it. I now know that although that is admirable and the intention behind that is good, that benefits no one. Why do you think life coaches and motivational speakers are as prevalent today as they are? Because sometimes all people need is for someone to tell them that they can do it. People need to feel like someone is on their side and that they are not in this thing alone. No, you should not build your life on if someone says “job well done” or not. But it surely makes it a little bit easier to keep going when it is said. You never know how mountainous that cloud of doubt in someone’s life is. And that moment that you take to speak an encouraging word to that person could be the penetrating force that allows some light in.

I am purposing and challenging myself now to speak life to people when I sense that someone may need a little extra motivation. There are some amazing gifts and talents locked up in people and I think that it is time that they are unlocked. We need them, and we NEED you. I encourage you to encourage others and speak life from this day forward.

Peace & Blessings.