“Whoever has no rule over his own spirit is like a city broken down without walls.”
Do you know what is ruling over your spirit? Are you able to say with all certainty that you have complete control over your soul?
Possessing the ability to identify your toxic traits is essentially possessing the ability to rule over and control your entire being. It’s truly the greatest form of self-care. Because, what I can identify, I can address. What I am willing to address, I can conquer. And if I conquer it, it no longer rules over me. So, whether it’s anger, pride, grief, sadness, jealousy, or whatever, it needs to be identified so that you regain full control of your mind, body, and soul.
The problem with that is firstly, many times in order to truly identify those traits, you have to get still and you have to get quite. We don’t like to do either because in the stillness and quietness is where you meet your greatest advisory. Yourself. When there is no one else around you, the only person you have to deal with is yourself. There’s no one else to blame, there’s no one else to focus on, there’s no one else to distract you. It’s just you, boo.
*queue “Man in the Mirror.”*
The second thing is, a lot of times…MOST times, those toxic traits have already been pointed out to you by someone. 9 times out of 10 by the LAST person you would want to hear it from. It could’ve came through anyone else, but because it came by THAT person, ain’t no way in hell will you allow them to know that they were right, right? Wrong, sis, just wrong. But we did successfully identify another one of those toxic traits.
That darn pride🙄.
Because, it’s not about them and it doesn’t matter who it came from. Because if it’s toxic, it’s poison and it doesn’t matter if I drink it or if it’s injected, it will still kill me.
So, go ahead and add that pride to the list, prepare yourself a cup of tea, grab a pen, and some paper, find a quiet place, and get to work. It’s going to be hard at first and some tears may be shed. To help you continue to go through the process, get a glimpse of what a free and in control version of you looks like. Do you see that joy? That P E A C E? Whatever it looks like to you, that’s the goal.
But, if you need a little added incentive, like me, when you can be honest with yourself and call out your own bull feces, you can do the same to others and it actually holds weight😁.
Now go forth and be blessed✨